Fifteen years ago I began studying with the late Angeles Arrien, Ph.D., the cultural anthropologist, author, and teacher of The Four-Fold Way, which is about ancient indigenous wisdom from around the world.
I had been taught to do what I was supposed to do. To hear about only following your heart and doing what you truly love was revolutionary to me at the time! It resonated so deeply, I made a commitment to myself in that moment that this would be the life I would live – one of heart and meaning, a life of love.I learned that the South is the way of the heart. When we started on the South and the heart, Angeles talked about always following your heart and doing what you love, and not doing things out of duty.
I began dropping the things that didn’t hold juice and heart and meaning for me, like stepping down from being the President of a board, and choosing to go to my son’s Back to School night instead of a company board meeting where all Directors and their wives were “required” to attend.
On September 11, 2003, I began my first day of walking the Camino de Santiago. My intention was to walk away from my old life into my deepest truest life and truest most authentic me. I walked the Camino, the heart meridian of our planet. I walked and walked. Little did I know what a pilgrimage with that intention nearly 500 miles across Spain would create in my life.
I had been living in London. I walked away from what appeared to be a glamorous life there. And when I finished, I moved to Nevada City, California, where we had a vacation home. Now I was to move here full time. I only knew that I loved it here, I loved the trees and deer, bears, squirrels, nature, the wild! I felt at home here. I didn’t know Nevada City had a huge community of people involved in healing arts and spiritual pursuits.
So much of my life I have had to preface things that I would say to people with “This might sound weird, but…” and then I would proceed only to notice that their glazed eyes had rolled back in their head. Finally, the Ugly Duckling one-day finds out she is really a Swan and finds her true family. In Nevada City/Grass Valley I could say something to someone, and they would actually grasp what I said, and then take it to a deeper level, and thus, we would have a most fascinating, deep and edifying conversation!
Little did I know when I moved here that just two years later I would end my 22-year marriage. Nor did I know that I would follow a deep listening of Spirit and create MoonBear Sanctuary. Little did I know that I would find my House of Belonging.
Perhaps you started something, and you loved it at the time, but have outgrown it. Look at all the things that no longer feed your heart. Things you are now doing out of duty. Doing things out of duty gives out dead energy; not energy that is alive and full of love. Following what I most love and being true to myself has lead me to finding my tribe! I know we all have our own given tribe, but only by being all of who you are, totally real, not hiding anything, and doing what you love, are we able to find our unique tribe where we truly and deeply belong.
Being truly authentic and following what I have loved most has lead me to the most joyous time of my life! It’s great to be able to be fully me, and not hide the spiritual part of me or the healer, thinking it too weird for others. To be my most uniquely me-self has created a passionate life filled with dear friends I love and adore. What a blessing of my heart to feel their love! I have deep gratitude to all the people that continually touch my life and feed my heart.
POEM: THE HOUSE OF BELONGING
by David Whyte
in the gold light
turning this way
thinking for a moment it was one day like any other.
the veil had gone
it must have been the quiet candle light that filled my room,
it must have been the first easy rhythm with which I breathed myself to sleep,
it must have been the prayer I said speaking to the otherness of the night.
this is the good day
meet your love,
this is the black day someone close to you could die.
This is the day
how easily the thread
between this world
and the next
and I found myself sitting up in the quiet pathway of light, the tawny close grained cedar burning round me like fire and all the angels of this housely heaven ascending through the first roof of light the sun has made.
This is the bright home
in which I live,
this is where
this is where I want
to love all the things
it has taken me so long to learn to love.
This is the temple
of my adult aloneness
and I belong
to that aloneness
as I belong to my life.
There is no house like the house of belonging.
New Moon Update From Astrologer Pat Liles
“The seasons change and we gain a precious moment of total equilibrium. The Sun will rise due East and set due West. Use this perfect balance to realign your intentions for all you want to bring into your life. Let Libra New Moon inspire and delight you. We are so blessed”
by KathleenA day or two before the New Moon is the most powerful time for your intentions and calling in what you want in your life. It is always more powerful to put them in writing and then the read them out loud to yourself. You can burn it, bury it, place on an altar, whatever you wish. I always like to have a copy that I can look at daily to help me focus.
See Jane Do What You Love– 31 day love challenge starts Oct. 1st.
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I am excited to announce that I just met with Elisa Parker of See Jane Do and Passion Into Action. We will be collaborating on a love series. Keep your eyes open for the launch this month of See Jane Do What you Love!! There is power in living and doing your passion. But so often we ask and wonder what our passion is. We compare ourselves to others and think everyone else knows and is living their passion – except us! The LOVE series is about doing something you love and letting your love inspire you and have you living in the present moment. In love all things expand. We are so excited to come together for all of us to co-collaborate and share our love and inspire each other!! With love, Kathleen and Elisa